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Torey Cervantes's avatar

I confess I’ve never paid much attention to Ballerina Farm but I’m old enough to remember Pioneer Woman. And in the early days of blogs and the internet she really did seem like a woman who had it all. Wannabe career woman who meets a cowboy and winds up on a ranch, has a gaggle of kids, homeschools them and photographs it all for no less than THREE websites? At one point she had a cooking blog, a homeschool blog and her main blog. I confess I was naive enough to think she was doing this all herself and wondered how she had enough hours in the day to cook and homeschool and go on a cattle drive and take pictures of all of it and then write three blog posts. I actually felt so inadequate when I compared my life to hers. It was only later when she mentioned some assistant that I had a light bulb moment and realized she had all sorts of help and that she was marketing herself and her brand and this had all been calculated. (Of course she wound up famous and had a cooking show and brand deals and all the things). At least with ballerina farm, they are selling the beef and the protein powder and whatever else they sell and you KNOW there are people working for them to get it all done. I can’t imagine reading Yesteryear because I have zero interest in a feminist take on tradwives, however I do think women everywhere need to remember that the internet isn’t reality and the curated glimpse someone gives you into their lives are just the highlights. And it can be frustrating to realize that the people you idolize are marketing themselves to you, or hiding the reality of how three blogs are managed. There’s a larger discussion that women need to have about real vs fake, the competition to make people think our lives are perfect, and also the idea that somehow women need to push themselves hard enough to have it ALL.

Tracy Harman's avatar

🔥🔥🔥 Yes! This! Thank you for putting my disorganized thoughts into words.

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